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I have always been good at letting go. I don’t hang on to things I no longer need, or I have “outgrown”. I figured, other people might find them useful so I always donate these things. I’m not very good at tolerating clutter — I could use the energy clutter takes up (oh yes, it does take up energy) to some other productive and more fun outlets.
It’s the same way with emotional clutter. Feelings of resentment, anger, guilt drains us of our energy. There’s no way I’m holding on to these feelings. In my mind — there’s no one in this world who is worthy enough for me to waste draining myself of my energy through these negative emotions. Not to say I don’t feel angry at all. I just don’t bother holding on to them. When I’m angry, I really feel it at the moment, then I let it go. Releasing these negative emotions gives me peace — something I’d rather feel all the time.
This is how I get to do things I love doing. This is how I get to have more fun with my family and enjoy life. This is how I get to be “in the moment” coz I don’t waste my time thinking of things I really don’t need. This is how I teach my kids to live…
Your turn. Are you holding onto anger, guilt, or resentment towards another? Think about how much energy you use up in negative emotions and what you could do with that energy if released. Identify something within you that could use healing and let it go. Once you let go, take advantage of your added energy and do something fun!
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Negative emotions stop us from living a joyful life. I am the exact same way in relation to letting go. I let go of the feeling of resentment and anger very quickly. I don’t keep it in. I forgive people but those who have broken my trust in a very big way I never trust again. I pray for them, want the best for them but stay away from dishonest, envious and evil people. They could only bring negativity to my family. Wonderful post Cherrie.
All the best,
Eren
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Boy, karmic forces must have known that I really needed to hear/see that today! Great and timely post (at least for me). I think it’s so important to let go of things, especially guilt. One thing my wise mother (who died two years ago) used to say is that “guilt is an unproductive emotion.” That is something I try–not always successfully–to remember.
I also have read that guilt and anger, physiologically, are very similar in how they manifest in the brain. Soooo….I’m gonna work on this anger thing I’ve got going on today.
Thanks again!
When I’m feeling strong, negative emotions, I try to separate from myself and notice the tizzy I’ve put myself in. I actually say to myself, “Wow, look at Debbie throwing a fit. She sure is upset. I wonder why she is so upset.”
That instantly separates me from my emotion and allows it to release. Then I try to reflect on the experience to see if I can gain any understanding. It’s amazing how fast I can ‘recover’ from my negative emotion.
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my coach tells me to let go of negative “stuff” the same way i would let go of a pen in my hand… to just DROP IT! it’s easier said then done, but when i catch myself dwelling on crap i immediately change my posture and think about something completely different!
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My Inner Bag Lady *sigh*
That’s the thing I need most to let go of.
She has a horrible habit of turning up whether I’m feeling Abundant (“You know this can’t last, right?”) or whether I’m feeling less goddess-y (“There you go – failing again.”)
But I’m getting so much better at simply acknowledging her and not paying her any further attention, which results in few visits and shorter stays.
And of course, being reminded to stay in the present is very useful too!
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Aloha Cherrie,
This is a great tip! You are so right in that it takes up so much energy to hang onto emotional baggage. It’s so good to let go and it is to let go of anything which makes us feel “not too good”.
Thank you for sharing! You’re children are so fortunate to have such a wise mother!!
Aloha,
Kellie
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This is something I could really work on for myself. I have a habit of thinking about things for far too long. Thanks for the reminder and tips.
What a great post!! Two thumbs up! Learning to let go is soo very important to living a life of happiness and joy instead of frustration and anger that looms on forever. Some of us are better at letting to go than others but with time, patience and even prayer you can learn to let go of those ugly emotions that can take control of your life..
Thanks for sharing this. I have been working through some issues that I “need” and am ready to let go of myself.
So, I started a new mantra/prayer/meditation – instead of asking WHY things are happening, I am practicing gratitude and saying “Thank you for giving me this challenge to overcome. It is stretching me to grow myself in ways I was not ready to do myself.”
It has really opened up some powerful learning for me!
EXPECT Success!
Jackie Ulmer
The excess emotional baggage we carry around us definitely holds us down, sometimes it is so strong it is difficult to shake off but this is when we need to be around positive people, like you, who help us unload the load.
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This is a great personal development issue. I believe I’m pretty good at letting things go and not holding a grudge against anything or anyONE. I believe that life is too short to be unhappy or stress about things that can not be changed. The only thing we can change is ourselves. Thank you for sharing this!